The Moul is like a patchwork fabric of attachments. When it loses someone or some thing to which it has a close attachment a patch is torn out with the rent leaving both a tear and a space: both the tear and the empty space are painful although the pain and feeling of loss diminish over time as the space covers over.
The degree of attachment is dependent on the degree of non-attachment, the degree of enlightenment, attained by the moul. The degree of pain and feeling of loss, therefore, is dependent on the degree of non-attachment attained.
It will be noted from this that the pain and feeling of loss have little, if anything, to do with the one or thing lost.